50. Are your Expectations too High or too Low?

podcast Aug 19, 2021

For most of us, it’s just plain difficult to know when our expectations of our children are unreasonable, right?  I've heard more times than I would like to admit, "but he or she has autism".  In this episode, I am going to talk about why that in itself is never a good reason or answer.  

So how do we know if our expectations are realistic? The reality is that if your child is having recurring unwanted behavior it usually means a child lacks either the skills or the motivation to meet our expectations. Now that certainly doesn’t mean that they will never be able to achieve that expectation, it just means that you might have to work on some additional steps in order to get there. The majority of our children can learn when given the opportunity to do so.

Expectation is the belief that something will and can happen in the future so our job as their parent is to encourage growth and we have to believe that they can and will instead of being fixated on where they are right now.