257. Rules Need Context — Why “Because I Said So” Doesn’t Work in Autism Parenting
Feb 12, 2026Rules can feel like constant battles in autism parenting — especially when you’re repeating yourself, feeling frustrated, and wondering why things that should be simple just aren’t clicking.
In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast, Shannon Urquiola breaks down why rules without context often don’t work for autistic children — and why that isn’t defiance, disrespect, or failure.
You’ll learn:
- Why phrases like “you know better” and “because I said so” often backfire
- How stress, overwhelm, and regulation impact your child’s ability to follow rules
- Why timing matters — and why something that doesn’t work now may work later
- How to explain rules in ways your child’s brain can actually receive
- Practical, real-life ways to support rule learning over time without shame or power struggles
If rules have been exhausting in your home, this episode will feel like a deep exhale — and a new way forward.
This episode is a reminder that your child isn’t ignoring rules — they’re navigating a world full of invisible expectations. And your job isn’t to enforce harder, but to explain more clearly.
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If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Why can’t they just remember what I said?”—this episode is for you.
Because sometimes, holding it together means understanding why their brain can’t always hold on.
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