246. Beyond Choosing Your Battles: Understanding Boundaries, Flexibility, and Growth

As the holidays approach, you’re probably already feeling the shift — routines change, emotions run high, and suddenly you find yourself “choosing your battles” more than usual. But what if it’s not really about choosing battles at all?

In this episode of the Not Your Average Autism Mom podcast, Shannon dives deep into what’s really happening when you decide whether to enforce a boundary or let it go. You’ll learn how to tell the difference between flexibility and avoidance, why boundaries aren’t mean (they’re love in action), and how to stay steady through the pushback that always comes with change.

Shannon shares real-life examples from her own journey with Jordan — from holiday meltdowns and unpredictable routines to learning when to hold firm and when to bend. You’ll walk away knowing that every decision you make isn’t about “getting it right,” it’s about knowing your child, trusting yourself, and choosing what truly matters in the moment.

So if the holidays tend to leave you feeling torn, guilty, or second-guessing yourself — this one’s for you. You’re not being inconsistent. You’re being strategic.

Stay tuned Next week for Part 2 — Episode 247. Staying in Your Lane: Reducing Holiday Stress and Letting Go of What’s Not Yours to Control.

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